Dad excludes 20-year-old son from wedding photo with his 2nd wife, her children, and his 18 and 16-year-old children: 'Let’s just do the core family first'

He's not winning Father of the Year

Treating one child better or worse than another is unjustifiable in 99% of cases. I'm not talking about garden-variety variations, where parents are slightly closer to one child because of common interests, but don't give that child unearned privileges just because they like baseball. I'm talking about purposefully excluding a child out of spite and refusing to repair the rocky relationship.

It's common for kids and parents to go through stages where they're more or less emotionally close to one another. Still, it's the parents' responsibility to try to make it so their kids at least feel comfortable approaching them when they're in distress or need support. There's a big difference between a teenager self-isolating because they're at the age where they don't want to tell their mom everything, and a young adult never telling their parents anything because they can't trust them, as they have shown time and time again that they don't care to give emotional support.

Parents should want to include their kids in big moments in their lives, and if they don't, that's a major red flag.

The dad in this story is a major red flag. He doesn't want his son to be in his wedding picture with his wife, her children, and his son's two teenage siblings because, according to this dad, his son is not part of the “core family.” Unsurprisingly, his in-laws are judging him for this choice.
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